My Wife and I’s Exploration in Bed Almost Led to an Emergency Room Visit

How to Do It is a sex advice column by Jessica and Rich .

Send your questions to the column anonymously.

Have a question? Send it to the writers' weekly Sex Advice column.

Submit your questions using the weekly How to Be With It on CNN.com/suspective.

When you have to have difficult conversations, does your husband do better with ripping the band-aid off or with a slow process? Thinking back on previous successful conversations can help you tailor your approach.

Don't take his power away by coming in with a firm decision about what needs to happen next.

Give him the autonomy to make suggestions of his own.